After the merisik ceremony, neither of us were sure about getting engaged. An engagement ceremony is time consuming to plan, resource consuming to hold. We thought we’d skip the engagement and discuss about getting married once he graduates. Well, late last year we decided to get engaged anyway.
After being informed, my mom and his met and sat down earlier this year, to discuss the basics – the date, venue, the number of dulang hantaran involved and the amount of wang hantaran. Once they agreed on the details, the research and planning began. Since Reza is away, both of us started sharing a planning sheet on Google to keep each other updated – from the guest and traybearer list, vendor details, attire and the things to put on a hantaran.
Honestly, I had no idea how I wanted the ceremony to be. My first thought was, the ceremony would be held at home. With only my family and his, my (large) extended family and closest friends present. Maybe a simple, plain dress by Nurita Harith. Possibly with a small number of trays for exchange. Probably a canopy outside to accomodate the crowd.
With ceremonies involving families, we can’t possibly make all the decisions, can we? Things don’t go as I imagined, obviously. But at least, it’s for the better.