I have a rough idea of how I want my solemnization dress to be — it would be a modified version of a dove grey piece designed by Rizalman that’s featured in one of the bridal magazines I’ve seen quite a while ago. Why modified? There’s no way I can afford Rizalman at this point. I tore that particular page with the dress off the magazine and have kept it in a clear file for future reference.
A few weeks back, I drove to the fabrics store, Jakel, with my brother, armed with the picture of the dress. The sales associate saw the picture that I had, analyzed it and took out a few patterns for me to consider. After trying this particular french lace out with complementing silk lining and chiffon, I thought I was set. I placed a deposit to lock the price and told the sales associate that I would return on a weekend where my mum is available. Although I’m paying, she knows a good deal about fabrics more than I do. I just needed the affirmation that I would be buying the right ones.
Thinking that it’s been too long since I made a deposit for the fabric, I returned to the store last weekend. My mum wasn’t around. So again, I dragged my poor brother to the store, ready to make the purchase. This time though, there was a confusion about the types of fabrics that was supposed to accompany the french lace. So the sales associate called my designer to confirm on the fabrics. The designer shared his ideas. Seemed like whatever it was that I picked was wrong!
I called my mum after that. She was on her way home from some conference in Singapore. She suggested that I return home, let her get ready and drive her there to see what it is I’ve picked. With that, I told the sales associate to hold on to whatever we pulled out of the shelves and wait for my return.
So I went back home and picked my mum up. Didn’t go to Jakel right away, we stopped by to meet my engagement dress designer (a few doors away), showed him the picture of that Rizalman dress and asked him whether the lace I chose earlier was appropriate. He said that the dress would be better off with a beaded french lace rather than a plain, because intricate beadwork on the lace would be too much of a work for a designer and will inflate the cost of tailoring. Which meant… that I’d to scratch whatever it is that I had picked and start looking again!
Once we were at the store, one of the Jakel crony noticed my mum (her regular customer) and took over. Suddenly the mood changed!
She led us to the area where the french lace with beads were and instructed the sales associate to pick several different fabrics, after I showed her the picture of the dress. The fabrics that were presented to me were not cheap. I was a bit disappointed because I had a budget 1/3 of what she showed me. I kept asking my mum:
“Why don’t we just buy something plain and make the designer put beads?”
I was hesitant to pick.
That’s when my eyes laid on a champagne colored beaded lace. The Jakel crony took out the lining, heavy silk chiffon and lace that I had earlier picked and wrapped herself with it. She looked at the mirror for a while, like she was stunned at the result. It was really beautiful, I had to try it on, too! She offered me a really good price. Although it costs three times than what I’d wanted earlier, it looks ten times better!
Since I can’t afford the fabric yet, she told me that I can leave a deposit, consult with my designer on how much of the fabric I need and pay in full when I’m ready. They’ll keep it for me for the time being. I feel bad for busting the solemnization dress budget, but maybe my budget has been unrealistic for the dress that I want all these while.
It’s a good thing we consulted someone prior to purchase! To get my money’s worth… I just need to make sure that this solemnization dress is versatile enough to be worn elsewhere, over and over again.