Wedding Diaries

Wedding prep: The documents

Marriage Documents

Getting the approval for marriage is a hassle, a lot of people tell me. But after going through it, I conclude that it’s not so bad. Here’s roughly the checklist, applicable to those residing in Selangor:

  1. Kursus kahwin certificate
  2. HIV test result
  3. Borang 2A and certification by Penolong Pendaftar Nikah (for dudes)
  4. Borang 3A (Approval for marriage for dudes)
  5. Borand 2C, Borang 2D and certification by Penolong Pendaftar Nikah (for ladies)
  6. Borang 3C (Approval for marriage for ladies)

Here’s how we did it:

Kursus kahwin

Just before the middle of the year — about six months before our akad nikah — it was announced on paper that attendees of the pre-marriage course would be required to go through a before and after course test very soon. Upon hearing this, Reza immediately booked us a slot at Masjid Negara.

The course was held on a weekend, a day and a half long with lunch, provided — all for RM80. We had different speakers for each module. Some interesting, some downright bland. Try paying full attention, else just make sure your phone battery’s 100% before stepping into the hall.

I would suggest that you go with your partner, so you’d be on the same page especially when the speaker starts discussing about the process of obtaining a marriage approval. Bring friends for a little bit of fun. Once you’ve covered all the modules, you’re a kursus kahwin graduate! Usually, you can pick up your certificate in a week or so.

Keep it properly, because without it you can’t get married.

For more info, check out Kursus Kahwin PPKI Masjid Negara.

HIV Test

The result of the HIV test is valid for six months, but we did it about three months before the date. We’re supposed to visit a Klinik Kesihatan Kerajaan that’s approved by JAIS (see the full list here) and we chose the one at Shah Alam. Some KK accept appointments, while some, only walk-ins. As there are only 20 slots for the HIV test each day, it is advisable to be there early in the morning especially when you’re going to walk-in.

There, we were required to fill in forms and took our numbers, paid RM1 and waited for our turns. It was a long wait, an hour or more before our names were called. I imagined the HIV test to involved a big fat needle poking into my arms, but no, the needle was as big as a sewing needle, poked swiftly and lightly onto my index finger. All that anticipation… for nothing -_-

Past that, Reza and I waited for almost two hours, gave up on waiting and went out. Past lunch, we went back to the clinic to get our results. Don’t wait, guys. Because although they claim that you’ll get the result on the spot, waiting for it may take forever.

For more info on the HIV test, read the memo here.

Borang 2A and certification by Penolong Pendaftar Nikah (for dudes)

Right after we got the HIV test results, we began dealing with the forms. What’s really cool about this process is, you get to do it online! Reza registered on Nikah Cerai Rujuk (NCR) online portal by JAIS and filled in Borang 2A, a form which requires the applicant to fill in personal particulars of the future bride and groom, details on the solemnization ceremony and the details of two witnesses for the purpose of obtaining a marriage approval. Once done, the form is to be printed.

Together with the Borang 2A, you’ll need to attach:

  • Copy of applicant’s IC
  • Kursus kahwin certificate and copy
  • HIV test result
  • Copy of witnesses’ IC

At this point, you’ll need to know who the Penolong Pendaftar Nikah (PPN) at the place where you live is. Make a call to the nearest mosque to find out and set an appointment with the PPN. You’re supposed to bring all of the documents and the two witnesses when you seek certification. The applicant and the two witnesses will sign the last page of Borang 2A in front of the PPN.

Once that’s done, you will need to bring all of the documents (sans witnesses) to the Pejabat Agama Islam Daerah (PAID). Reza’s daerah is Hulu Langat, so he had to submit the documents at PAID Hulu Langat at Bangi.

The guy will receive Borang 3A — approval for the guy to marry! The guy now has to hand over the stack of documents, including Borang 3A, to the lady.

See where your PAID is located here.

Learn more about Permohonan Lelaki here.

Borang 2C and 2D and certification by Penolong Pendaftar Nikah (for ladies)

Ladies, you’ll need to register yourselves on the Nikah Cerai Rujuk (NCR) portal, too. Fill in Borang 2C and 2D. On Borang 2C, you’ll need to fill in particulars of future bride and groom, the wali and two witnesses, plus details about the solemnization ceremony. Borang 2D has more questions about the wali. Once done, you print the form.

Together with Borang 2C and 2D, you’ll need to attach:

  • Copy of applicant’s IC
  • Kursus kahwin certificate and copy
  • HIV test result
  • Copy of wali’s IC
  • Copy of witnesses’ IC
  • Copy of parents marriage/divorce certificate (to certify date of marriage of parents)
  • Documents that your other half just handed

As someone who’s residing at Shah Alam, it’s easier for me. The process of certifying the documents and submitting them are both located at the same building, Bangunan Sultan Idris Shah, which hosts my PAID. So I brought along the documents, my wali and two witnesses to the building.

My wali, witnesses and I signed Borang 2C and 2D in front of a staff at the PAID. After getting every document certified, I received Borang 3C — approval for the girl to marry.

Then, I submitted everything to the PAID. Once you’ve done this, you should know who your jurunikah for the day is. Where I live, there’s no jurunikah yet, so I’m supposed to call PAID a week before the ceremony to confirm the jurunikah, alongside other details.

Learn more about Permohonan Perempuan here.

Community service message: Since JAIS has clearly outlined their expectations when it comes to the documentation, please prepare all your documents before going to the PAID. Don’t expect the staff there to make copies of your IC on the spot. Be considerate.

Final thoughts

I guess that’s about it… until one week to the ceremony, that is. Sounds a little intimidating, but hey, it’s not as tough as it seems. Once everything’s done, you’d feel so relieved! Have fun 😉

When I got home, I immediately told my Bibik:

“Bibik! Saya dah boleh kahwin!”

But she was like…

“NIKAH DULU! Mana boleh kahwin!”

Uh? -_-

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10 Comments

  • Reply
    Farah Waheda Wahid
    October 7, 2013 at 10:30 AM

    all the best dear and may everything goes smoothly… i’ve bought the t-shirt and wore it…he hehe…now in a phase of going to be a mum…hopefully everything will go well as well…

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      October 7, 2013 at 7:32 PM

      Thank you Farah.

  • Reply
    her
    October 7, 2013 at 3:00 PM

    alamak 2 hours! Went to KK Pantai at Plaza Pantai and it took both of us 45 mins je from filling the forms to the picking up the result. Takpelah, pengalaman tu hehe. All the best and have fun planning! 😉

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      October 7, 2013 at 7:34 PM

      A colleague did mention that it’s fast at KK Pantai. In contrast to my experience, 45 minutes is very good! Thanks, having fun so far.

  • Reply
    1412
    October 8, 2013 at 7:59 AM

    Apparently some associate the term kahwin as doing it. Hence need to Nikah first.

    Anyway its a must read for those who plan to get married!

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      October 10, 2013 at 12:02 AM

      Doing it? Which it?

  • Reply
    anonymous
    October 8, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    just a word of advise: maybe you want to do some background check when you find out who the jurunikah is… apparently some of them like to ask questions, i.e: baca doa qunut, baca maksud doa qunut etc. during the ceremony. which can be pretty nerve-wrecking i feel. as if the akad itself isn’t a challenge for the nerves already 🙂

    my dad had a word with the jurunikah beforehand, gently saying something like, ‘ kalau ada soalan, eloklah tanya sebelum majlis kan. masa tu jugak tanya, kesian pulak budak tu nnt…’

    hope all goes well for you 🙂

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      October 10, 2013 at 12:06 AM

      Oh yes. I’ve seen it happen — not that the groom didn’t know the answer (I think), he just went blank! Appreciate the advice and will remember. Thank you Anonymous and nice move, dad 😉

  • Reply
    Nisa
    October 9, 2013 at 2:31 PM

    Very long process. The difference between JAIS and JAWI. I still remember completing all documents and getting approval in one day. Anyhow, an advance congratulations from me and good luck!

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      October 10, 2013 at 12:06 AM

      Thank you Nisa!

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