Asna was asking whether she could “watch kitten videos on Youtube” on my Macbook on a weekday. I said no. I was working on something and besides, she’s not allowed to use any computer for entertainment, on weekdays.
She pouted when I declined her request.
Then she started crossing her arms, facing elsewhere. When I tried to talk to her, she ignored, making angry faces, pushing me away and hitting me. Her “bitch mode” was on.
I got annoyed. So I put my arms around her tightly, like I “locked” her. While she was trying to escape, I firmly told her:
“You don’t get to be mad. You’re asking the permission to use MY computer and if I choose to NOT let you use it, I can. It’s My computer, then it’s MY decision. You don’t get to be mad.”
Had to make it relatable, too:
“It’s like me asking permission to use your toy and you won’t let me, but I don’t get to be mad because it’s YOUR toy. YOU get to say yes or no. Does that make sense?”
She nodded and stopped trying to fight. The bitch mode was off and she started chatting with me like nothing happened.
My brother and I find that as long as we explain things, she would drop her attitude and think rationally.