Wedding Diaries

Getting married: The accessories

When planning for a wedding, it’s not just about the dress. I learned that it’s also important to think about the accessories, too. The planning for the dress and the accessories should go hand in hand!

The things you should consider are the kind of jewelries, shoes, hair accessories and bouquet that would complement your dress on the big day.

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Jewelries

When we talk about wearing jewelries on a wedding, the previous generations are likely to suggest that you wear some precious necklaces, earrings, bracelets and sometimes… additional rings.

Apart from my engagement and wedding rings, I thought of wearing only a pair of earrings on the day. A pair of statement earrings would suffice. I went online and was eyeing on these earrings from Erickson Beamon:

 Whiter Shade of Pale Crystal Earrings

I decided not to kid myself — it would’ve been utterly ridiculous to spend close to US$500 on a pair of earrings I’d highly likely wear only once, judging by how rare I’m seen wearing dangling earrings these days. I hit the malls to look for lookalikes, but the ones I tried were too pale in comparison.

Maid of honor suggested that I seek the help of our elders when it came to the jewelries. So I went to my Maknyah’s place to borrow her very dainty crystal earrings.

However, I changed my mind when I found a pair of earrings at Ola, Bangsar Village II, just a day before the reception day. I thought that the earrings would complement the dress better and it reminded me a bit of the Erickson Beamon earrings I liked. Damage? RM79.

A little concerned as to what the elders would think (for not wearing the earrings that were lent to me), but I was sure that they would understand.

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Hair accessories

For a long time, I was confused whether to wear a veil or to wear hair accessories e.g. crystal hair combs/headbands. I thought that wearing a veil would be too much like a princess, but when my close friends heard this, they were asking:

“What do you mean you don’t want to wear a veil?!”

“When else will you get to wear a veil?!”

Hmph. To think that they don’t look like the type who would ever wear a veil.

The designer provided me a veil and it was delivered with the wedding dress, a day before the reception. I requested and expected a tulle veil but was slightly disappointed when I received a chiffon veil instead sobs.

At my disposal, too, were hair accessories by Jennifer Behr, lent by my mate, Karina for me to wear on the reception — the kinds that Blair Waldorf was seen wearing on Gossip Girl. However, the hair accessories, although beautiful in their own right, didn’t go too well with the dress.

It was too late to order any of the custom made crystal bridal hair combs on Etsy. I was also too lazy to walk to Semua House to look for bridal hair combs during lunchtime.

On the day of the reception, I brought both the veil and the crystal hair pieces, thinking that I’d decide what to wear later. When my makeup artist asked me how I wanted to my hair to be done, I showed her my options. She thought that neither the veil nor the hair pieces would complement the dress and earrings. After that, she picked the orchids found inside the room and clipped it to my hair — a completely spontaneous decision!

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I thought it turned out cool!

If crystal hair pieces and tulle aren’t your thing… you can buy real flowers hehe.

Shoes

I really don’t like shopping for shoes… what more, heels!

My mum accompanied me shoe shopping only a week before the reception. A week! We went to Pavilion almost the whole day this one time, went into each shop offering shoes that crossed our paths. There were many that I liked… but they’re either uncomfortable or too expensive for me to consider (I’ve stopped buying expensive heels for years now).

Guess Elsea

At the end, I settled with a pair of high-heeled pumps with silver fabric from Guess at a discount. I spent only around RM250 on my wedding shoes. Win!

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Hand bouquet

I wasn’t sure if it was necessary to have a bouquet. Those who have planned weddings tell me that it’s something a bride must have… else her hands will look “too empty” when she walks down the aisle. Gave it a thought and figured that it’s true. So any of you who’s toying with the idea of skipping the bouquet entirely — don’t. You’ll need something to hold on to and the bouquet will make you look less awkward.

Refusing to hire a professional to arrange a bouquet for me (they cost a bomb), my relatives came to the rescue. After picking up flowers from Floristika the night before the reception, I handed them to my capable Makyong and Ika, my maid of honor. The next day the bouquets for both the bride and the flower girl were ready. They were perfect!

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Lesson learned

Briefly…

  • Plan your look. Go online and get ideas! When you think of the kind of dress you’d want to wear, think of the accessories, too. They need to complement each other.
  • Accessories is where you can save, I think. Unlike a wedding dress, you can actively hunt for jewelries, headpieces, hair combs and shoes at the best prices online. One of the sites I used to frequent was Etsy, where you get to order custom handmade or vintage accessories at reasonable prices. Just make sure you order months in advance, because creating the accessories may take some time. If I had done things earlier, I would’ve gotten most of my bridal accessories there.
  • Save even more by borrowing! It may be a good idea to ask your relatives if they have jewelries or hairpieces to lend. They’d feel honored that you asked.

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4 Comments

  • Reply
    sushimalaya
    August 3, 2014 at 12:23 PM

    I like how your wedding is so cheapskate one! Hahaha because some people like to spend millions on their wedding and then by the time nak hidup betul betul dah takde duit dah. Getting married is so expensive and such a hassle nowadays it’s becoming more like a burden then something special y’know.

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      August 3, 2014 at 9:41 PM

      Terpaksa cheapskate! I spent thousands on other things sobs… I don’t have a lot of money to begin with. There were times when I was tempted to spend more on the wedding, but I’m glad that my mum continued reminding me not to. If I could rewind, I’d cut down a lot more!

      Betul, the whole process was a burden, financially. Come to think of it, it would’ve been good to be able to use all the money for the down payment of a comfortable house.

  • Reply
    Zara
    August 3, 2014 at 8:54 PM

    Love that you stood by your minimalistic ways for the wedding! Usually ppl love to spend loads on wedding..you give us all inspiration 🙂

    • Reply
      miasuraya
      August 3, 2014 at 9:42 PM

      Tak payah spend banyak sangat, some things you can cut and keep the costs low. If I could go back in time, I’d try to save even more.

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